Making Peace Through Appreciation

Is it possible and practical to leverage Appreciation :to minimize or avert disagreements between a couple?

Does Appreciation play any meaningful role in eliminating relationship conflicts?

Can appreciation or gratitude help to overturn couple's Fault-lines? 

Let us find out through the following clickable sub-topics?:

• Being An Individual
  
• Little But Mighty
  
• The Half Bread Factor
  
• How Appreciation Eliminates Conflicts

Individual Dynamics

For every couple, managing their personality traits and eliminating relationship conflicts, is a continuous exercise.

Did you ever ask yourself what could be causing the rifts between you and your partner?

Before you allowed yourself to  boil over in a fury,  did you bother to dig into the root of the matter?

Ever imagined how you could co-exist with your partner in harmony?

We all know how spontaneous - and therefore wrong - our reactions to certain issues can be sometimes.

Especially on matters concerning emotions and by extension, relationships.

Those ones can be hard nuts to crack on any given day.

Look at it this way:

Two persons with unique personalities have come to live together.

Woven into their partnership, of course, are the following individual differences: 

1. Value systems

While one partner prioritizes honesty and integrity in his or her lifestyle, the other guy may place greater value on  loyalty and commitment.

2. Belief system

As is often the case, they are most likely going to have contradictions in their belief systems and views, such as  in religious or spiritual beliefs, political views, or even philosophical concepts and perspectives.

3. Moral principles:

It could be that while one of the partners is very uncompromising and moralistic, on the contrary the other person may be flexible and easier to relate with.

4. Personality traits

Again, it's a story of two unique passengers travelling in the same vehicle. One of them may be remarkably good in showing empathy, the other could prove to be more logical and analytical by nature.

5. Personal Attitude towards life:

Again, attitudes certainly do  differ. 

For instance,  one may be passionately optimistic and hopeful. On the contrary, the reverse may be the case with respect to the other partner, who may turn out to be  pessimistic or cynical.

6. Risk tolerance:

Abilities and qualities usually vary form one person to another. 

One partner could be the adventurous kind of person who is ever ready and willing  to take on risks. 

On the other side of the coin, the partner may be a very cautious type who doesn't like to take risks.

7. Communication style:

Also, from one individual to another, it is normal that communication styles will be different.

For example, one of them may demonstrate direct and assertive character, while the colleague or spouse proves to be  passive and accommodating.

Little Things We Often Ignore 

Your partner may not have a job or contributing financially to the union, but believe me, that's not the end of the story.

In fact, if you can just relax and review what goes on in your home, your partner is actually pulling his or her weight in other areas.

You might not realize it because you have not really considered them.

Again it could be that you have been too overwhelmed by other stressful activities or business to notice them.

More particularly, this usually occurs when you have set specific expectations for your partner.

When you feel those expectations are not being met, you are most likely going to be blind to all other positive activities going on around you.

That means you won't see those beautiful things he or she is doing or has been putting in.

These efforts may appear little but in the context of sustaining your relationship, they could be very important.

It's just that you have been taking them for granted.

Some of these little but essential contributions are:

1. Thank you reactions (appreciate them for thanking you)

2.  Children school runs (if they didn't do it, you would have had to inconvenience yourself to do it, busy schedule or not)

3.  Doing house chores (can you imagine having to do the chores after a tiring day's work?!)

4.  Running errands and other small tasks like picking up groceries, washing and ironing clothes,, etc (Geez! think how frustrating it can be having to handle all that by yourself as you try coping with demands of work or business: will you even have time for that?)

5.  Listening to you ventilating (you should appreciate having somebody to give listening ear to you sharing your thoughts, ideas and opinions, even expressing your frustrations, etc. There's simply no way on earth you can speak and listen to yourself at once).

6.  Delivering a message to you (if they didn't do it, delay or no delivery may cause you to lose important deals or miss out on something very crucial)

7.   Supporting your goals and encouraging you (think how miserable and all-alone it can be when nobody does that!)

8.  Just being physically present and available (you won't know the value of what you have until you've lost it: that your partner's always there for you clearly shows that you are not alone: you have a ready shoulder to lean on)

To Own Half A Bread Beats Having Nothing

Until you find yourself in a situation whereby you have practically nothing, it may not be easy for you to grasp the concept of appreciation.

However, if you had ever tasted a zero level of possession, I tell you that valueing even half a loaf of bread will come natural to you.

After all, that's better than having nothing.

Literarily speaking, that incomplete size of bread will save you from total hunger and prevent your system from experiencing total collapse.

Figuratively, it gives you assurance and hope of better things to come.

Therefore it is crucial for you to develop the habit of appreciating half breads or small things and gestures from your partner.

Their contributions don't have to be big or gigantic before you acknowledge them.

To be very clear on this issue, let us now identify some of the reasons why you should recognize and value some of the little gestures and  efforts of your partner:

No matter its size or degree, the littlest effort by your partner means that he or she is trying to connect with you

Every little commendation, icluding the usual spontaneous and heartfelt thank-yous, are actually some of the key elements which nurture relationships.

Your Spouse's attempts at communicating with you, no matter how little, are some of the essential factors which initiate meaningful interactions or discussions.

No matter how insignificant you might consider it,, they actually make you to feel that you are being seen and validated every time your partner acknowledges your contributions

Recognizing and acknowledging little acts of tenderness and love are some of the essential stuff which promote healthy relationships and prevent conflicts

Gratitude has always been a key factor for progress in life. When you make it a habit to respect even the small positive gestures of your partner, you will be able to cultivate gratitude and positivity, which will:

•  encourage reciprocity
• create a dtandard of mutual support between you two

You might not realize it just yet, but valuation indeed helps you to build trust. If you dialogue positivity with the little contributions of your partner, it will strengthen your commitment to each other.

Likewise, nothing else spreads the tentacles of intimacy and  love like taking advantage of endearing connections offered by such validating acts and  moments.

On a final note, from a logical premise, I am sure that you will agree that receiving a little attention from your partner is absolutely preferable to being ignored  altogether.

8 Life-changing Effects Of Appreciation

Is making Peace Through Appreciation even possible?

Without a doubt, it's certain that to live in ih crisis-free harmony is the natural wish of every couple on earth.

It is also very true that conflicts cannot  be absolutely excluded from human interactions.

However,  I believe that implementing the steps we will examine in the next few paragraphs, will greatly assist you to reduce or outrightly avert clashes in your relationship.

1.  It Will Strengthen The Bond between The Two Of You.

We all know how very crucial bonding is. By appreciating small contributions from one to another, your emotional connections will be positively nurtured. This will in turn strengthen your union.

2.  It Will Promote Mutual Empathy In Your Interactions.

You will gain better understanding of your spouse when you constantly appreciate their positive gestures, no matter how small.

In turn, it gives you .ability to view or see things from your partner's standpoint or perspective

3.  It Enables You To Tame Your Expectations.

One of the key causes of friction between two people is the regime of expectations one partner sets for another to fulfil.

To put it in simpler terms, problems usually arise when expectations are not met.

However, you can correct this by valuing your partner and generally treasuring personal intangibles like honesty, integrity, kindness, compassion, etc, rather than focusing only on materialism,.

Doing so will  motivate or influence you to water down, or reduce your individual expectations.

Less expectations also means less disappointments and provocations.

4.  It Creates A Positive Rapport.

This is no rocket science but plain truth: there's nothing like negative vibes flying around to get everyone worked up and shouting angrily at each other.

You want to counter that?

Show some appreciation and you are good to go. It changes the rules of engagement between you and your spouse, lover, or partner, from suspicion and antagonism to positive engagement and familiarity.

5.  Encouraging Open And Sincere Communication.

If you ever saw a couple who are tight-lipped towards each other, you shouldn't be surprised anytime they explode in anger.

Needless to say, communication is the fuel which gives life and vitality to relationships.

When you show appreciation for your partner's inputs, you will in essence be establishing open and honest dialogue between the two of you.

6.  A Timely Shift In Direction.

Talk about a stitch in time saving nine, which means  tackling a problem when it's still small, in order to avoid it expanding into a major crisis much later.

Most conflicts start out small: we neglect them, and they explode.

Boom!

But you can arrest this by focusing your attention on the tiny but mighty ongoing positive activities in your alliance.

This will successfully redirect your attention from what divides you to what binds you.

It can reposition you from potential antagonism to conciliatory friendliness.

7.  It Encourages You To Be Forgiving

If you constantly observe and warmly respond to your companion, it is bound to boost the health and quality of your association.

For instance, it can motivate you to let go of old grudges, prevent new resentments, and create a solid exchange of forgiveness all around.

8. Finally, It Fosters A Climate Of Kindness.

The heart usually responds to what the eyes see.

When your senses constantly observe acts of positive inputs, no matter how little they may be, something good always happens

It will inspire feelings and acts of kindness in return and foster a supportive environment in your relationship.

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