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Fault-lines Of Broken Commitment

  

Come to think of it, how exactly can Commitment positively  assist in eliminating relationship conflicts?

How can you successfully neutralize the negative effects of the Fault-lines of broken commitment?

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Are You Committed?

What indeed, does commitment signify?

In layman's words, what is it all about?

How does it affect or reflect on the  well-being of couples?

Commitment simply expresses a situation whereby you pledge or dedicate yourself to a particular course of action, responsibility, or relationship.

It signifies honest devotion, a demonstration of obligation and duty to whatever is the object of your passion.

Commitment, if I may indulge in metaphorical licence,  is an invisible but palpable umbilical cord which binds two or more persons together for a common cause.

In eliminating relationship conflicts, couple's Fault-lines are heavy stumbling blocks one has to demolish - and Commitment is a practical tool to do just that.

To get a more proper handle on our subject, let us look at some of its characteristics:

  • showing dedication (a strong sense of duty, allegiance, and devotion to somebody or something) 
  • being loyal or faithful
  • demonstrating responsibility towards somebody or something
  • exhibiting accountable traits towards something or somebody, especially by accepting consequences for your actions and decisions
  • proving to be dependable, consistent in producing expected results, by being  metaphorically a ready shoulder to lean on
  • steadfast and unrelenting in demonstrating attachment and truthfulness
  • readily making sacrifices for the sake of a course or relationship
  • helping to set clear expectations and build trust through open and honest communication
  • exhibiting strong trust in someone 

You may wish to ask: 

why exactly do we need commitment?

Better targeted: 

Of what value is it to a couple?

In a nutshell, commitment is  meant to:

  • engender or build trust in a couple
  • strengthen collaboration and achieve shared goals
  • encourage mutual support and sustain love and care 
  • establish a climate, feeling or sense of unity and belonging
  • foster stability and security  in a relationship
  • achieve personal growth of concerned partners
  • overcome challenges and  obstacles

Its Disadvantages

1. To be uncommittal  disconnects people in relationships and prevents them from building strong foundations for their partnership.

They will be emotionally distant and hardly on the same page.

If unaddressed, it could continue to tear them apart and eventually destroy their bond.

2. It establishes trust challenges or issues.

To state it better, there would ensue a strong show of distrust that's so obvious even strangers could easily perceive it.

3. Lack of commitment makes spouses or partners to be unsure of how they stand with one-another.

They may feel anxious, stuck and uncertain about the future of their affair.

4. Refusing to demonstrate commitment or supportiveness in your union could set off constant acts of disappointment and other insensitive behaviour.

This in turn may cause those affected to suffer emotional distress and pains, stress and tension.

5. When one party or participant in a relationship is constantly uncommitted, it tends to give their partner a feeling of being unvalued and unappreciated.

6. Obviously, a couple who lack commitment to each other would find it very difficult to build or sustain intimacy within them.

7. Again, the absence of commitment usually generates interpersonal resentment and anger, in turn producing arguments and conflicts.

Therefore they may struggle unsuccessfully to resolve their complicated issues and problems.

8. In addition, being nonchalant often negatively affects healthy interactions  between couples and damages openness in their communication.

9. Without a doubt, it stamps a bold question mark on their love-life and may gradually cause them to become  insecure and jealous persons.

10. Similarly, such attitudes may foster a lack of accountability and responsibility in relationships.

11. Frankly speaking, we all want to be treated like we are special.

By frequently demonstrating uncommitted habits, couples deny themselves of attention and validation.

Through this, they are loudly indicating that neither of them is special or a priority - which is absolutely wrong.

12. To round up, it works against their ability to collaborate to achieve progress and success. 

Any hope of their working together may be a pipedreams, since they may not be able to join hands to execute long-term plans or goals.

The Benefits

1. Couples or partners who show good commitment within them will enjoy deepened  trust and strengthen their loyalty

2. Commitment generates interpersonal well-being, emotional security, and stability amongst people. 

3. Invariably, lovers or couples or spouses who show commitment tend to be more open and honest in communicating with themselves.

It empowers them to be transparent.

4. Likewise, it facilitates emotional tenderness, intimacy and closeness.

In short, it increases their affection and love for each other.

5. It helps spouses or couples to build a strong foundation for their future, especially by encouraging collaboration, teamwork and partnership.

For example, it empowers them to cultivate and nurse a shared vision and goals.

As a result, they can support seemlessly each other's dreams and aspirations

6. Likewise, commitment produces enabling environment and support for couples to achieve personal growth and development.

7. Undoubtedly, being devoted to each other will greatly enhance the capacity of couples or lovers to work through their issues together.

It means they can successfully resolve their  problems and conflicts.

8. Naturally, when persons in a relationship show dedication to their association, it follows that their bond will grow stronger.

Hence, they will enjoy a rich sense of belonging and unity.

9. Moreover, once couples commit to a relationship, goal, or cause, it will engender unshakable responsibility, accountability,

resilience, adaptability, and growth mindset in them.

It motivates them to positively engage their challenges, adapt to new situations, and bounce back from setbacks.

10. Commitment boosts Emotional stability, particularly by entrenching sentiments of being safe and protected.

It makes couples to feel at home.

11. As a corollary, a committed habit makes it easier to empathize, understand, and forgive others.

Indeed, it increases relationship satisfaction and happiness in everyone concerned.

12. Not only that, it also boosts their physical and mental health by mitigating stress and anxiety.

13. On a final note, commitment motivates and enriches bonding and connectivity amongst couples, spouses or partners.

 As a result they would usually experience and share greater familiarity, affinity, and attachment.

How To Show Dedication

1. Commitment is active and passive.

Prove exactly that to your partner, spouse, or mate through what you express verbally and in how you say it.

Affirm your dedication every day and leave no room for doubt.

2. Make out time for yourselves, don't be evasive or unavailable, be caring.

Through thick and thin, when times are difficult or confusion reigns, give yourselves emotional support  and prove that you are truly a friend. 

3. Collaborate to achieve progress, do things in unity as a couple.

Resist being lone rangers or acting alone.

Endeavor at all times to operate as a team.

Work together as one to overcome your challenges.

Share goals and dreams, and cooperate to actualize or execute them.

4.  In every relationship, trust is indispensable.

Build an enduring trust between yourselves through credible behaviour and expressions, solidarity, and devotion.

Let your "Yes" or "No" prove to be exactly how they ought to be.

5. Without a doubt, a clear evidence of commitment is to be affectionate.

Affection is a powerful demonstration of dedication and includes:

  • physical touch or  tenderness (hugs, kisses)
  • surprise packages and thoughtful unexpected kind gestures (gifts, kind words, etc)
  • scheduling dates to sustain the flame of passion between you both

6. Without forgiveness, there can't be commitment.

For instance, is it even possible to be devoted to someone whom you bear grudges with?

Actually, forgiving your partner is the first leg of bonding or commitment. 

It is the only way both of you can get it right or successfully work through your conflicts together.

7. Demonstrate that you are unselfish and ready to pull your weight and be accountable in the relationship.

Avoid leaving your partner to handle the bulk of activities, but rather gladly shoulder your own portion of responsibilities, whether it's financial, household chores, etc.

8.  Be supportive.

Always be available to motivate your partner and to hold each other's back. Render unflinching support to yourselves in order to achieve personal growth and development.

Empower yourselves. Remember that no single tree can form a forest.

Therefore support each other's passions, hobbies, and interests.

13.  Acknowledge and validate yourselves, your individual and collective worth. Celebrate each other's achievements and milestones.

9. Appreciate each other, it is what lubricates the engine of commitment.

Through this you can understand your true values and respect each other accordingly.

10.  Commitment without patience amounts to nothing.

Be patient with yourselves, irrespective of individual provocations and challenges.

Focus on each other, be interested, cherish the good qualities and potentials you both possess.

It will enable you to stick together and make your union to endure.

11.  Again, being committed has everything to do with showing that you are reliable.

Therefore, you have to behave in such a manner that both of you can offer reliable and dependable service to each other.

12. Likewise, Commitment is all about dedication and loyalty.

You need to constantly prove that you are loyal and faithful to each other.

It involves prioritizing each other's needs and preferences.

13.  Furthermore, you must show empathy, because it is not possible to be committed without being empathetic. 

You can't be devoted without properly understanding your partner, or identifying with the emotions, pains and desires which drive his or her habits or behaviour.

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